Today is my Birthday! Wohoo! I am twenty four years old!It’s crazy how the years fly by. It was just as if yesterday I was going to my first day of school as a preschooler. Then, within a blink of an eye I am moved out, married, doing the adult life, and not to mention 24 :)! I wanted to share what I have learned these last 24 years of my life…
#1 Give yourself the advice you would give your friends. 
  • When you don’t know what to do give yourself a pep talk. If someone else that you loved was in your situation, what would you tell them? We often so easily give advice to others, but don’t take our own advice because it is hard at times. 
#2 Having a bad day doesn’t mean you have a bad life. 
  • When you’re having a bad day, don’t you sometimes over dramatize your life? Don’t dig yourself into a deeper hole. Bad days happen to everyone. It doesn’t mean your whole entire life is bad. Try to change your thoughts from negative to positive by counting your blessings. When I have a bad day, I try to reflect on the good & I think to myself “This too shall pass.”
#3 You are NOT your mistakes.  
  • Everyone makes mistakes even those who are walking with God. The biggest mistake you can make is allowing the mistake or your past to define you and your future. God is the only one who defines you, NOT the mistake! Don’t be a prisoner of your past. It was a lesson not a life sentence. Forget the mistake, remember the lesson. Start fresh today.
#4 Don’t allow the opinions of others choose your destiny.
  • Just because someone doesn’t believe in you doesn’t mean you can’t do it. Caring about what people think is useless. Most people don’t even know what they think of themselves.  People manifest what is on the inside of them. If they have unbelief/jealousy/hate etc toward themselves they will treat you the same. Surround yourself with those who support you. Listen to what God says about your destiny above all. Many who are successful and living their dreams out encountered naysayers at one point in their journey! What if they listened? They wouldn’t be where they are today. You don’t let them stop you!
  • Side not about people having an opinion of you. People can say mean and cruel things. The way they treat you is a reflection of how they treat themselves. #realtalk Don’t take things personal. Love yourself, forget what they said, move on, and be the bigger person. You never know what people are truly going thru.
  • Here’s an example of someone who didn’t listen to the haters….Disney was fired from the Kansas City Star in 1919 because, his editor said, he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” SO GLAD DISNEY KEPT GOING!!!
#5 Your actions speak louder than words.
  • People can talk it up all day and do nothing. Don’t influence people with your words, show and influence people with your actions.
#6 Being perfect is unrealistic. Being a better version of yourself should be the goal. 
  • Don’t put unrealistic expectations of yourself. Most of us are on social media and all we get to see is the highlights of everybody’s life. But let’s face it, we are all humans. Nobody has a perfect life or is perfect. We can only take life day by day and better ourselves step by step. Celebrate the progress you’ve made and how far you’ve come. When I feel pressure I say this quote to myself, “I am loved by God and I am a lover of God, therefore I am successful.” -Mike Bickle. At the end of the day, that is what matters most.
#7 Be bold and courageous. Don’t let fear hold you back. When you look back you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more of than what you did. 
  • Stepping out of our comfort zones is scary. But great things never came from comfort zones. Fear is common in most people I talk to, but don’t let fear suck the life out of you.I have learned fear is just a feeling. If you have to do it afraid, DO IT! You will miss out if you don’t! Ask yourself this, if fear wasn’t present would you do it? If the answer is yes. Go for it!
#8 Don’t ignore your daydream. Write the vision and run with it. 
  • Those things you dream about daily are not there to just tease you! God put those things in your heart that make you come alive on purpose, for purpose. Don’t ignore them. Pray on it and step out in faith.
#9 Set boundaries. Learn how to say “no”. 
  • Saying NO is not the easiest thing in the world to do. You have to say no for you though! Saying yes to everything is unhealthy. In my case, when I did that I had no time to do the things God put on my heart! I was too busy doing everything for everyone which eventually burnt me out. I physically would get sick and be out for a week because I said yes to all! Don’t be a people-pleaser. If people really love you they will respect your boundaries. Stay balanced.
#10 Change happens constantly. Embrace it! 
  • I used to be afraid of change because I wanted to control things. But change is like the seasons of each year that come and go. Throughout your whole life, you will experience change. Don’t look at it as a frightening situation. Embrace the change! Look at change as a positive opportunity to grow, learn/experience new things, make new memories etc.
#11 Your current situation isn’t your final destination. 
  • You will look back on your situation three years from now and it won’t even phase you. It won’t even be a struggle. You will see that the tests you undergo in life are always turned into a testimony! Don’t give up. Miracles happen everyday. You are going “THROUGH” this not staying in it. The best is yet to come. God is faithful & His intentions for you are good!
#12 The grass isn’t greener on the other side. It is greener where you water it. 
  • Again social media can sabotage us into comparing ourselves to other people who seem to have grass that is greener than ours. We get in that mentality of “my life would be better if I was like them”. Don’t fall into that trap. Water your grass. You are YOU-nique. God knit you together with no mistakes. There is only one you in this world. The world needs what you carry. Everybody else is taken, don’t waste your time trying to be somebody you’re not. The truth is you will only be you, so be yourself fully. Blossom where you’re planted and in what you’re called to do.
#13 Love yourself-Invest in yourself-Take care of yourself.
  • Everything that is in you will manifest as I said earlier. Take time to yourself. Do more of what makes you happy. Discover who you are. For me, I love working out, writing in my journal, being in nature, traveling, reading books, listening to podcasts, & learning new things. It is so important for you to be healthy physically, spiritually, & emotionally/mentally. Exercise. Eat Right. Make time to recharge, refresh, and refuel. You won’t be able to love others well if you don’t love yourself.
#14 Listen to that inner voice. Follow your gut. 
  • God doesn’t need to scream because He is so near. Often we have a sense or gut feeling. Don’t ignore it! God is speaking and He will not mislead you. Take time to quiet your spirit. Don’t second guess your gut/inner voice. If it brings peace, follow that peace. Peace is to be the umpire of our hearts. It Determines whether something should be in or out of our lives. Pay attention & be obedient.
#15 What a man thinks, He is. (Proverbs 23:7)
  • Thoughts are so powerful. I suffered from anxiety for seven years because I had thoughts full of junk. I was meditating on the wrong things. Overthinking. Over worrying. It was the worst. I had anxious thoughts 24/7 and I was physically anxious 24/7! Those thoughts come to life. How did I overcome and retrain my mind? I started speaking out the opposite of what I felt. Example: “I am not an anxious person. I carry peace. God has not given me a spirit of fear but a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind”. I replaced the bad thoughts with the truth and authority I had in Christ. I would say it over and over until eventually it was so engraved within me. Faith comes by hearing. My faith was growing every time I would speak out. It says that in the tongue is the power of life and death. Are you speaking/thinking life or death over yourself? Speak life. Tear down that wallpaper of lies in your mind and get the truth deep within your mind + heart. You will totally be transformed. The truth sets all of us FREE!
#16 You can’t control or change others. You can only control and change yourself while loving others right where they are. 
  • You will encounter differences, arguments, and conflicts. You can always lovingly disagree while respecting yourself and others. Remember, people have their own choices, feelings, and attitudes. How you choose to respond says everything about you and how they choose to respond says everything about them. Take responsibility for you.
#17 Make the most of everyday.
  • One day or day one. You have control of your choices. Every morning you have two choices: continue to sleep with your dreams, or wake up and chase them. You will never find time if you don’t make time to pursue what you want. Keep organized and prioritize. Hard work and discipline will always pay off. Discipline is on those days that nobody is watching and you don’t feel like doing anything but you rise up in the spirit of perseverance you push thru and you get what you don’t like done, and it eventually achieves the things we love. Having consistent discipline and not giving up will give you the life you want.
#18 Show me your friends and I will show you your future. 
  • We need to be picky about who we hang around. Don’t just hang out with anybody and everybody. Be wise in who you let pour into you and speak into your life. Guard your heart, mind, and soul. Why do you need to do this? Because in 1 Cor 15:33 it says, “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” The people you chose to be around can corrupt your good attitude, your right mindset, your value/morals, and your actions. It can lead to a broken life, broken relationships, & broken dreams. A good friend watches out for you. They want the best for you. They  love you at all times. They don’t lead you down a path of destruction. They tell you the hard truth in love if they see you tripping up.  They call you higher. They sharpen you. Get around those people who inspire you to be better. Choose your friends wisely.
#19 Don’t take those you love for granted. 
  • Forgive quickly, Love deeply. You can’t say I love you enough. Life is short. Go out of your way to appreciate those around you. Write them a love note, call them on the phone, take them out to dinner, spend quality time etc. Love is just a word, until you give it meaning. People may forget what you say, but they will never forget how you made them feel.
#20 God’s rejection is His redirection.
  •  We can have a blueprint or a plan of our lives that we are so set on and it feels at times those plans are torn apart when God says no. Don’t get discouraged. Those who hope in the Lord will not be disappointed. I am so glad He told me no when I look back on those times I was so set on a certain plan or thing happening. He doesn’t want you to settle. He has an extraordinary destiny for you. It’s far beyond what you can think, pray, ask, dream up, or imagine! There is purpose in your redirection. Trust Him.
#21 Take a deep breath. Everything always works out. No matter what. 
  • God works everything together for the good of those who love Him. & What the enemy intended for evil, God turns around for my good. Can I get an amen to those promises?!! He is a promise keeper. Put your faith in not what you can see, but in  what he promises you!
  • Testimony : Just recently I had all my camera equipment stolen from me (that def was not God’s doing..the theft did that) I was in shock and I was thinking what in the world am I going to do..because I have a wedding to shoot in a couple weeks?!!! BUT GOD, He came thru as always!! I had all the equipment I needed to shoot that day given to me by our local photography store! Go God! He ALWAYS works {everything} together for us!
#22 Be active in the waiting. 
  • If God is revealing a plan to you, don’t just sit down and do nothing & wait for like a year lol. Faith without works is dead. Prepare and do everything you can do to make it happen. I have done this many times, I would feel God calling me to do something. Then, I wasn’t so sure it was what did I do? I would go and put myself in the very situation” to feel it out.” I would leave and immediately have clarity. Example: I had this passion to be a dancer when I was younger I went and applied for a job to be a dance instructor. After my first week, I realized it really didn’t bring me the joy I fantasized it would. That is a key thing I do if I am needing clarity. Pray & feel it out with God.
#23 Life is not about money, material possessions, etc. It is about what is in your heart. 
  • When you pass, what do you want to be remembered for? Leave a legacy that is worth remembrance! I ask myself that question often. Truth is..your possessions, money, and looks will fade away. They won’t matter. Why get fixated on what really doesn’t matter? Don’t focus so much on the outside..focus on what will last! Invest in what will eternally last, your relationships + what is inside of your heart.
#24 Last but not least, Don’t settle in your dating life. 
  • Yep, def had to do this one. I wasted so much time throughout my school years dating to fill voids that only God could fill, which ended in a few broken hearts. Take my advice PLEASE! Let God be your matchmaker. Don’t be fooled by the thought of “I’m missing out!” That is a lie. & Do not think that there is something wrong with you if you have not found your person. God has His reasons in His timing. His ways and thoughts are higher than ours. You have one season to be single, and you have a lifetime to be married. If you have the desire of marrying someone, God will make that desire come to pass in His timing though. Don’t have the mindset of singleness being a disease. It is not. It is a blessing and gift from God! Take your season of singleness and find yourself, better yourself, and do the things that would be harder to do if you were married/had a family ex.  traveling, hanging out with your friends, or whatever! Make the best of it.
Whew! Now that is a wrap. I could go on and on but maybe I will save that for my next birthday. Live your life to the fullest. Learn from those you look up to. Thank you for everyone who has loved me, prayed for me, supported me, and poured into my life.

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6 thoughts on “24 Things I Learned In 24 Years

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    Posted on March 14, 2017 at 3:59 pm
  2. You are such an inspiration to others! Keep writing! Loved this! May God always bless you!

    Posted on March 15, 2017 at 3:37 pm
  3. This is great. Thanks for sharing. You have wisdom beyond your years. Definitely a manifestation of the Holy Spirit.

    Posted on March 15, 2017 at 8:48 pm
    1. Angie, you are a carrier of God’s heart! I can feel His love thru your encouragement & it touched me! Thank you for leaving feedback for me <3

      Posted on April 11, 2017 at 3:19 pm
  4. Awesome first post Kayla! A lot of Godly wisdom! Blessings!

    Posted on March 15, 2017 at 11:12 pm
    1. Deb- THANK YOU SO MUCH! Means A LOT 🙂
      Blessings to you as well!!

      Posted on April 11, 2017 at 2:43 pm